• Focus on health. Habits that support you. 

• Self-awareness and emotional intelligence

• Manage stress and anxiety at work and home

• Dealing with relationships. Building love and connection.

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Vincent’s other passion is Traditional Okinawan Karate, by using ancient martial art concepts to build deep sense of presence, purpose and aliveness, we can awaken that inner warrior..  He has worked extensively with men from many walks of life, race and sexual orientations.

Men are often estranged from their inner worlds – their needs, feelings and desires. Having access to their emotions wasn’t part of their early programming about how to be a man. Their alienation from themselves makes it hard to really connect in relationships. The isolation of men is pervasive. Research shows that as men age they often have only one male friend and their social networks, compared to those of women, are much less dense and more fragile.

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Some men, particularly those who had overbearing, critical or abusive fathers and other authority figures, become meek and ambivalent in their relationships. They drift with no real sense of purpose and without making strong choices. Other men are highly comfortable with the power and privilege that traditional social structures have provided them. They tend to be deeply uncomfortable with vulnerability and displays of emotion in themselves or in others. They fall back on habits of rigidity and anger.

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Vincent helps men to understand and unpack their rigid habits of shutting down or getting angry. He assists them to understand the underlying emotions that drive their feelings of being suffocated and bored in relationships. Men often come to Vincent because they want newness but don’t know how to create it. They don’t know what to do after the honeymoon phase. 

Working through the process of identifying the different mask you are wearing on a day to day bases. 

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The 9 Masks of Masculinity

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As highlighted  by Author  Lewis Howes in his book:

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• The Stoic Mask

• The Athlete Mask

• The Material Mask

• The Sexual Mask

• The Aggressive Mask

• The Joker Mask

• The Invincible Mask

• The Know-It-All Mask

• The Alpha Mask​

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Which mask is most common to you?

Vincent tells us the most common ones he sees are the Stoic, Material and Alpha masks. 

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Vincent explains that these individuals are chasing materialism to feel something or to feel worthy. They tie their self-worth to their net worth. Or, as we’ve seen in the political landscape recently, some global leaders wear the Aggressive Mask and call for aggression before peace. Sometimes, training can be hard to turn off. Vincent mentions that for athletes and military personnel specifically, it can be hard to “turn off” the training of extreme aggression or to turn off the Aggressive Mask.

We are frequently conditioned to contain emotions and be chronically self-sufficient. This may have been a way to be accepted and belong in their family as a child.

 

This stops them from seeking help or counsel because they fear feeling like a failure and the stigma that there is something ‘wrong’ with them.

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Dealing with difficult emotions or struggling to navigate complex relationships is not a sign of weakness or a reason to feel shame. These feelings are so common amongst men that they are symptoms of the society that we live in.

 

Seeking support is a sign of courage; become accountable for your own well-being. Vincent firmly believes that a more integrated man is one who is able to honestly name his own strengths and weaknesses in the company of others, and work towards his own maturation as a man with humility.